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“Jaw With John” – Sister Doesn’t Need Chitchat

My sister (in her early 40s) was diagnosed with cancer.

They caught it early, so it’s still at an early stage. We in the family all found out about this a few weeks ago.

I have messaged her and her husband a few times since then to chitchat, but never asked them about the cancer.

I feel like if they want to talk about it or need my help, I will be there. It is understood by everyone in my family that we will help each other if asked.

My sister and I haven’t spoken for a week, and I found out from my other sister that my brother-in-law called me rude and not supportive because I didn’t offer to help.

I have two young children, and the younger one was constantly sick. I also work full time and am dealing with a dying father-in-law.

I don’t have the memory capacity or time to follow up on them all the time. Was I being rude? — Hurt

Dear Hurt:

I don’t want to say you were rude but……..you screwed up.

You were trying to be tact and it ended up coming across like you didn’t care when it’s quite the opposite. I believe what you were trying to do was to take your sister’s mind off her recent bad news by talking about other things but she clearly didn’t want to hear about such nonsense. She wanted to hear you express your love and support for her in this trying time.

Call your sister back and tell her that you are behind her 100% because she needs you, and the rest of her family, now more than ever.

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“Jaw With John” – Now Dasher, Now Dancer, Prancer and Vixen, On Vomit, On Cupid…Wait, what?

My family drove six hours to visit family members over Christmas.

Upon arrival, we were informed that one of their children had been ill with the stomach bug since the day before.

We ended up spending the holiday with their entire family (including three kids, both parents and a grandparent) sick and running to the bathroom. Once home, all three of my children got the stomach bug. My wife and I will get it soon, no doubt.

Is it wrong of me to be extremely upset with the family we visited for not notifying us immediately when their first child fell ill so WE could decide if we should visit? I feel it was disrespectful to keep that information from us. Once when one of ours was sick we called to let them know and they chose to postpone their visit.

Obviously, if sickness unexpectedly befalls after arrival, it’s bad luck. However, I feel as though we are all now unnecessarily suffering due to their selfish desire not to miss out on a Christmas visit.

Any advice? — Furious Dad

Dear Furious:

I am sure that the family thought that the bug might just be a 24-hour thing and that’s why they failed to inform you the day before. Having said that, they most definitely could’ve told you somewhere along the 6-hour trip over there – hopefully on the outset and not within the last hour – that way you could’ve planned accordingly. Ultimately, this shit happens ALL THE TIME. There is no use getting furious over it. Accept it, drink some fluids, rest, make a few trips to the can and you’ll be feeling like a champ in no time!

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