My wife and I have been married 25 years and have three adult children who no longer live with us. We are religious and belong to a conservative church.
We have a satisfying sex life. About 15 years ago we started using graphic language during our lovemaking. We find it exhilarates and enhances our experience. We do not call each other names; we use graphic words to express how good we feel during the act. The excitement I feel from this is cheaper than Viagra.
Is what we are doing wrong? We are empty nesters. I worry about what would happen if our closest religious friends knew. Would they feel the same way toward us? I believe words become wrong when they are used for the wrong motive. When I use them with my wife for better sex, my motive is pure. Do you think other religious couples enjoy this activity?
— BEDROOM SECRET IN WEST VIRGINIA
Dear Bedroom Secret,
Pro-tip: If you don’t want people to know about your sex life…well, don’t talk about your sex life!
What you are doing is not wrong so long as it’s not abusive and is consensual.
I get the feeling that other religious couples might be doing a bit more than just using graphic words…if you get what I mean.