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Dear John: Religious Man Worries About Using Graphic Words In Bed

My wife and I have been married 25 years and have three adult children who no longer live with us. We are religious and belong to a conservative church.

We have a satisfying sex life. About 15 years ago we started using graphic language during our lovemaking. We find it exhilarates and enhances our experience. We do not call each other names; we use graphic words to express how good we feel during the act. The excitement I feel from this is cheaper than Viagra.

Is what we are doing wrong? We are empty nesters. I worry about what would happen if our closest religious friends knew. Would they feel the same way toward us? I believe words become wrong when they are used for the wrong motive. When I use them with my wife for better sex, my motive is pure. Do you think other religious couples enjoy this activity?


Dear Bedroom Secret,

Pro-tip: If you don’t want people to know about your sex life…well, don’t talk about your sex life!

What you are doing is not wrong so long as it’s not abusive and is consensual.

I get the feeling that other religious couples might be doing a bit more than just using graphic words…if you get what I mean.

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“Jaw With John” – How Could You Be So Heartless!?

I am 29 years old and have been dating a man in his early 30s for more than six months. We met, felt an instant connection and began dating fairly seriously shortly afterward.

He is wonderful, kind, loving and giving. We have a lot in common and we rarely disagree or fight. I enjoy being with him a lot but I am beginning to feel we would be better off as friends, although I am sure he would want to stay together.

The issue is in the bedroom. We’ve stopped having sex. He seems to brush it off as something that just happens to people. We have had sex only a few times since we started dating. Though he speaks of it like it was amazing, I feel differently. I have asked him to see a doctor, but at this point the relationship is so new that I am not even sure if I want to continue.

I feel like there is no passion and we’re just friends. I wonder at what point am I allowed to throw in the towel without seeming heartless. — Heartless

Dear Heartless:

“How could you be so heartless?”

Girl I’m feelin’ what you feelin’
No more hopin’ and wishin’
I’m bout to stick my key in
Stick it in the ignition

So gimme that toot toot
Lemme give you that beep beep
Runnin’ her hands through my ‘fro
Bouncin’ on 24’s
While they sayin’ on the radio

Ok, enough R. Kelly and Kanye. But if you’re not feelin’ what he feelin’, then you shouldn’t take your key and stick it in his ignition. ‘Nuff said.

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