“I recently discovered, by accident, something very personal and private about my boss. While I understand this discovery reveals a personal lifestyle choice for him, I am grossed out and disgusted by his choices.
I am also very angry with my boss for putting me in a position of stumbling across this information. It was available on a company computer that he was fully aware I had access to.
The other side to this is that I have always respected and admired him and I realize that he is, in fact, not a different person — just my perception of him has changed.
I guess I am looking for advice on how to handle my thoughts and actions toward him, now that I know what I know. — Wish I Didn’t Know”
It’s clearly not illegal, or else you’d have gone to the police. But it’s, like you said, “a personal lifestyle choice” and it should be dealt with as such. You can, discretely, let him know that he left his computer logged in to his account and you saw whatever it was that you saw. It could get awkward or it could be a bonding moment as he could have an explanation for it (highly doubtful). Either way, the only thing is certain is that now that you’ve seen it, you can’t un-see it.