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“Jaw With John” – Husband Should Listen to Pavement: Cut Your Hair

“My 63-year-old husband refuses to cut his hair. It is gray and thinning and is now longer than mine. Even when it’s clean it looks dirty.

I was raised to take pride in my appearance. If I say anything about it, he thinks it’s funny, or the other extreme, that I am picking on him. He’s not a rock star or a young lad. Please help. — NEAT AND CLEAN IN CALIFORNIA

Dear Neat and Clean,

He’s 63? OK, then you probably only need to wait a few more years before nature takes care of the “problem” itself. Otherwise, you’re stuck with it. He won’t cut it. You shouldn’t force him to cut it. You should cut it …. out. Ahhh, see what I did there? OK, I’ll see myself out.

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“Jaw With John” – Guests Should Remove Thy Shoes

When I was growing up, I was always told to remove my shoes when visiting another person’s house, especially if they have new flooring. Now that I’m an adult and building a new house, I would like to ask people to remove their shoes upon entering my home.

I have young children and expect family with other small kids will visit. I’d like to keep the floors clean and maintain their good condition. Would it be tacky or rude to ask this of visitors? — SHOELESS IN ST. LOUIS

Dear Shoeless,

It’s not tacky.

I deliver catered meals and every so often when I go over to someone’s home I look down at the client’s feet and see that they are in their socks. I ask them if I should remove my shoes before coming in and then I’ll go about my work with or without shoes on.

If you make it obvious with a sign, and shoes by the door, then it should be easy for guests to follow. I remember when I was in Japan a few years ago I knew that at some places I’d have to remove my shoes before entering and they provided slippers or shoe covers which is also something you can look into.

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“Jaw With John” – Mom’s Crying Over Free Babysitting, What???

We live down the street from my boyfriend’s mother. Our 3-year-old daughter spends a few hours there while I’m at work and her dad is running errands. My daughter loves her grandparents, so I don’t mind her spending time with them.

The problem I have is, my boyfriend’s mother repeats everything I say to my daughter right after I say it when I ask her to do something! It drives me crazy. My boyfriend tells me to say something to her, but I have no idea what to say. Please help. — ECHOED IN ALASKA

Dear Echoed,

This sounds like crocodile tears.

You’re complaining about your grandmother providing FREE babysitting…c’mon bruh! She is clearly echoing your sentiments (BECAUSE SHE AGREES WITH YOU!) and trying to teach your daughter what is appropriate behavior. She’s also three…so she’s talking to a 3-year-old…keep that in mind too.

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“Jaw With John” – Older Woman Gettin’ Wiggy With It

I’m a 57-year-old lady. I have been a widow 23 years and chose not to date while raising my daughter, who is now 26. I would now like to meet a nice man to spend time with, but I suffer from an affliction many older women deal with — alopecia. My hair is very thin, but with wigs and makeup, I look attractive enough.

I’m afraid I’m being deceptive when I meet a man like that. When is the right time to tell a man what he sees is not what he gets? — EMBARRASSED IN OHIO

Dear Embarrassed,

When is the right time? How about if it gets to the point where he will sensually run his hands through your hair as you maybe “roll in the hay”? That sounds like the right time. And remember, he still gets YOU (so he’s seeing what he’s getting) and if he is truly in to you then he will not mind the wig.

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“Jaw With John” – 9-Year-Old Cannot Be Reasoned With When It Comes To Good Habits

My 9-year-old daughter has several friends whom we love and who are good buddies for her. However, the rules in their homes are different from those at ours. One friend in particular, “Sarah,” eats a lot of junk food and watches more TV than we allow. When my daughter asks why she can’t have chips and ice cream after school, or why we watch movies only on weekends, I remind her that good food and exercise make her healthy, and with less TV she does better in school.

I’m not interested in critiquing Sarah or her family, who are lovely people we really like. However, I do want to make the connection between unhealthy lifestyle choices and possible consequences because this is a subject we’ll keep revisiting as my daughter grows up.

I have been trying to say things like, “Everyone makes their own decisions. This is why we do it this way,” but at 9, my daughter sees things as pretty black or white. If our way is right, then their way must be wrong. I’m totally failing at subtlety. Is there a better approach that I could take to talking about this without invoking comparisons? — LIFESTYLE CHOICES IN SOUTH DAKOTA

Dear Lifestyle Choices,

There is no reasoning with a 9-year-old! Doi!

Because some [children] aren’t looking for anything logical, like money. They can’t be bought, bullied, reasoned, or negotiated with. Some [children] just want to watch the world burn.” OK, not really, but I just like that quote from¬†The Dark Knight¬†and felt like playing around with it for this response.

I remember growing up I had to go across the street to my friend Thomas’ house to play PlayStation or Virtual Boy (I’m dating myself here, whatever). I had asked for a gaming system for years and years but was repeatedly denied because my parents wanted me to focus on school and playing with friends and being outside and blah blah blah. (I did have a Game Boy, by the way, so that kept me occupied)

The lesson here is that every parent parents their child’s behavior and actions differently. You need to be firm with your daughter and tell her why you are making the choices you are. Because, let’s face it, you are looking out for her best interests so that, in the long run, she can be healthy and develop good habits. You are her parent, not her friend, tell her what’s what and stick to your guns!

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