I have been in a relationship with a very special man who is five years younger. We met on an online dating site and have been seeing each other for several years. We are well suited for each other and very much in love. We have now decided to live together, with the possibility of marriage if it won’t jeopardize our retirement incomes.
My dilemma is I have breast implants. I had the surgery 20 years ago when I was newly widowed and about to start dating again. I never told any of the men I dated, and I don’t believe anyone suspected. My breasts look and feel natural and they have enhanced my love life tremendously.
Now that this relationship is serious, I wonder if I need to tell my guy. If he leaves after I tell him, then I guess he wasn’t The One. I’d prefer not to say anything. I’ve had the implants so long, I feel they are part of me, not something foreign in my body. I am afraid he may have an altered opinion of my body after I tell him. Please advise.
— OLD, BUT NOT DEAD
I think you’re going to have to tell him eventually. If at some point you need to fix them because something has gone wrong then he might be very surprised to find out that they are not real.
If you tell him and then he bolts then it was never meant to be and he’s a shallow P.O.S. I suspect he won’t because you two have been together for so long. It’s better to get this off of your chest (HA HAAAA!) now and not feel guilty later.