“My wife of 10 years dropped a bomb on me last night. She told me that she’s interested in having sexual relations with a female friend of hers. She is seeking my approval.
She feels that doing this with someone of the same sex doesn’t constitute being unfaithful. I don’t know if I’m being overly conservative here but I strongly disagree.
I’ve known she was curious for a little while now but I was totally not expecting this.
We have two young children and I’m very worried that her curiosity might put our family at risk. We had a long discussion last night but it seems she’s already made up her mind and won’t reason with me.
Is there anything I could say that would convince her otherwise?
I’m eager for your take on this. — Scared Dad”
Your wife seems to have a funny view of infidelity. By her reasoning, Luke’s Dad on The O.C. wasn’t being unfaithful because it was with another man. Fuzzy logic.
She seems pretty determined and there are no words I can put together that would help you convince her otherwise.
The smart ass in me is suggesting you tell her that since you are not attracted to other men that you would like to be with another woman if she gets to. That would definitely rile her up and maybe expose her to the idea that this is truly dumb and sophomoric.
The realist in me says to seek counseling and explore these thoughts and desires with a professional and maybe then she will see the error in her thinking.