“My partner and I have been dating for a year. We’re in love, but over time the frequency and irrationality of his jealousy seem to have increased — or so I think.
Yesterday after work (I’m a substitute teacher) a male co-worker I had just met offered me a lift home — over an hour away. I naively thought it was a friendly gesture. Quite soon into the ride he suggested we stop for a drink. I quickly asserted that I am in a committed relationship with a fabulous guy.
At the end of the journey he insisted I take his phone number and, not wanting to be rude, I obliged. I had no intention of contacting him.
As soon as I saw my partner I told him the whole thing because it was so awkward. Out of left field he went into a jealous rage. He insisted I had not considered his feelings and accused me of not putting him first because I didn’t call and tell him who I was with as soon as I got into the car.
I told him he was being overly jealous and has no reason not to trust me. He insists it’s my responsibility to reassure him, since he assumes the worst.
Is my partner justified in his anger? Was I wrong to accept a lift and neglect to call him?
I love him dearly and want us to work, but not at the expense of my sanity.
Am I completely crazy? — Stressed Partner”
Your partner is highly possessive of you. That’s a bad sign. If he flips out over a ride home – which you immediately told him about when you got home because it was so awkward – then maybe you need to think about if you should be with him long term.
You weren’t wrong to accept the ride since you needed one, but a simple text of “Hey Jason, I’m getting a ride home with Brad who teaches at the school here. I’ll see you in a bit!” would’ve sufficed. Remember that for next time. Your partner should be mad at your co-worker since you told him you were in a relationship and yet he still gave you his number. That’s shady.