“Jaw With John” – After Four Months Your Lips Are Dry

I met someone through eHarmony and have been seeing him for four months.

He is kind and attentive. He doesn’t smoke, drink or gamble. He has a steady, well-paying job. Neither of us has previous relationship experience, and he often thanks me for being so patient with him.

However, after four months he says he is still not ready to kiss me. Is it too much to expect some sort of physical expression after four months?

He is thoughtful in every other way, but I am very frustrated.

I now feel that the spark is gone. I don’t regret meeting him and would like him to remain a part of my life, but as a friend rather than a romantic partner.

Is there a way to ignite the chemistry? Will it come as he builds his comfort level?

Should I stay with him even if I’m left unsatisfied and jealous of other happy couples? — Hoping for More

Dear Hoping:

The dude won’t kiss you? You must feel like Never Been Kissed except you’re not in high school or disguising yourself to look like a high school student for a newspaper and you’ve been kissed before…moving on!

There are two scenarios here that I believe to be the most plausible given your situation. #1 He’s gay OR #2 He’s just not that into you.

I’ve been where you are Hoping and you just need to express your feelings and tell him or else you’re doomed to wonder “what if?” or “what’s wrong with me?” and it will drive you insane. Four months of dating without a kiss is kinda bullshit and you know it.

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2 thoughts on ““Jaw With John” – After Four Months Your Lips Are Dry

  1. Writingofpassage says:

    My advice: move on!

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