“I am a 56-year-old woman. For most of my life I have been a liar. I’ve told small lies and really big ones — all mostly for the purpose of not wanting to hurt someone else’s feelings.
I have told a few lies I wish I had never told, and I realize I can only blame myself. Amazingly, no one has ever called me on any of my lies.
I’m now at an age where I’m having a hard time keeping my “stories” straight. Also, I feel like I don’t really care anymore about other people’s feelings, and that I just want to be able to do what I want without having to lie. I want to look at myself in the mirror without seeing a liar staring back at me.
What should I do? — Pants on Fire”
As Lady Gaga says “Do what u want”. You told lies to keep from hurting people’s feelings and now you don’t really care about other people’s feelings, so why NOW should it matter that you can’t keep your “‘stories’ straight”? If they call you out on it own up to it and move on since you clearly don’t have a conscience.