“I have two friends who happen to be cousins to each other — “Carmen” and “Angela.” Angela has been dating her boyfriend, “Jose,” for about three years. She talks about marriage.
I don’t think he’s a good guy but I don’t know if I should tell her. He has cheated on Angela with her cousin Carmen. He even spent a whole weekend with Carmen when Angela was away.
I wish Carmen hadn’t told me this. She has put me between a rock and a hard place. I’ve reprimanded her many times and have made sure she never talks to him again (as far as I know).
I’ve asked Carmen to come clean with Angela but she is afraid to. She feels bad about what she did, and no longer talks to Jose. She ignores his messages and calls.
I feel that if Jose did this to Angela with her own cousin, he might be cheating on her with other girls. Angela has had suspicions but always believes him.
I don’t know what to do. Angela does not deserve this but Carmen is my friend, and I would have to out her if I let Angela know about what happened. Also there might be a big family feud over this. What should I do? — Desperate to be a Good Friend”
I’ll refer you to something Terry Benedict told Rusty & Danny Ocean’s gang of 11: